Rejection

Rejection after THE interview.

“Dear Employment Candidate, it is my sad duty to inform you that your qualifications, while impressive, were not the exact fit to fill the needs here at Initech...”

That type of “Thank you for your interest” letter can be demoralizing. As I mentioned in an earlier article about attitude, http://thejobsguy.blogspot.com/2012/04/attitude-during-job-search.html your ability to maintain a positive outlook is critical to eventual success. Job searches are about sales, and depressed salespeople typically don't do well.

So what are some tips when you have been rejected? First of all, don't take it personally. The decision to go with someone else is (usually) a business decision, not a commentary on you personally. Also, for what it may be worth, rest assured that there are a great many people who just got the same letter or email that you did.

Additionally, recognize that, while you may believe you have been turned down for THE DREAM JOB, that may not be true. Even The Jobs Guy gets rejected, and many years ago, I was passed over for a job in management at a national grocery chain. I was devastated at the time, but grateful now. Life/Karma/Fate led me to a place where I am doing what I love, and that is NOT managing a Produce Department. When you have a little space from the rejection, you can gain perspective.

Congratulate yourself just a little. OK, I know. At the Olympics they only play the national anthem of the winner, who is now standing one step higher than you are. However, you still came in second, or at least did well enough that you were selected to move forward in some competitive process. Someone was interested enough to invest time and energy into talking with you further.

You are “One Closer To Yes”. Job searches are sales functions. The old story about the Master of Sales leaps to mind. A young rookie was partnered with an old, successful Veteran. They went on their sales call, and together, made a fabulous pitch. The young Rookie was dejected when they left, full of self-doubt and loathing. In the car, driving away, he looks over, and sees the Veteran smiling. The Rookie says “How can you be smiling after that? We made a great sales pitch, and they still almost threw us out.” The Veteran looks at the Rookie and says “Over the years, I have learned that for every 100 times I make a sales pitch, 99 responses are 'No'. Now that one is out of the way, and I am 1 closer to a sale. What a great day!”

After what some people perceive as a job interview failure, they often ask if they should get feedback from the employer. Like many things in life, the answer is “It depends”. If you are a younger person, seeking an entry level or early career position, I absolutely recommend that you ask. A polite email saying “Thank you for your time. To help me with my future job searches, could you provide any feedback which will help me do better...” Some people will be gracious enough to help you know where you are lacking, while others will delete the email and avoid a potential liability.

Regardless, when you are rejected for a job, give yourself a break.

Good luck and best wishes,

Chris